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Waiting for him or her to commit
to you -- and to the relationship?
Stop waiting -- for-ever!
Take mattes into your own hands.
Pathway To A Committed Relationship
is a
12 - Week
Coaching
Program with cutting edge
information, tools, resources and practical advice for
men and women who
are
IN A
relationship
(for at least 3 months) and want to learn how to
directly, efficiently, effortlessly and effectively get
a man or woman to commit.
What is a committed relationship?
Difficult question! There are probably as many
answers as there are couples and individuals in
partnerships.
Some of those answers include:
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A formal public vow in
which two people choose to dedicate themselves to
each other for life, through a marriage ceremony,
either religious or civil.
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An agreement to start
planning a future together (engagement).
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A verbal contract to
"see how it works out" before starting to plan a
future together.
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An arrangement that
allows two people to enjoy all of the benefits of
marriage, but without the "slippery realities" of a
religious or civil contract.
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A verbal contract to
continue working on and investing in the
relationship.
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A promise to have only
one sex partner.
Every man and woman's
commitment expectations are different, and that's
perfectly fine. But whether commitment to you means
a marriage vow or a verbal agreement to be
exclusive sex partners, one thing is for sure: a
committed relationship is not something that just happens
because you've been with the same person for a certain
period of time, so things "naturally" progress into a
committed relationship.
If you are here reading this, you know too well,
that's not what happens. What happens is that you find
yourself feeling committed but don't sense the same
level of commitment from the other person.
When the other person
resists commitment, fears commitment or is unable to
commit:
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It feels like a great risk to open your heart to someone because
they
aren't really there for us in a way that makes you
feel safe.
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You don't feel
truly loved because you're not sure about the
other person’s desire to be involved in the
relationship.
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You're always "fearful" of making the "wrong"
move because you think you might drive the other
person away.
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You don't know what to expect from
the other person and from the relationship because there is no structure for
some kind of accountability.
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It’s hard to "just be in the moment"
and enjoy the relationship because you’re always
afraid of being distanced and rejected the next day.
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You can't
make plans for the future, because you have no
guarantees that the other person will be around.
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You find it hard to deal with the inevitable
ups and downs of relationships because there is no
degree of stability to return to.
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You can't form stable,
satisfying relationships because you just can't form
a committed relationship all by yourself!
And in this age of
on-line dating and
long-distance relationships
where uncertainties and risks are magnified, mutual
commitment is even more important, than in the
traditional relationship.
And this is where I come
in.
When I set out to put this
program together, I made it my mission to find what
REALLY works --directly, efficiently, effortlessly and
effectively -- no stupid head-games and no beating-about
the bush or pretend "I don't want commitment."
I took those time-tried
centuries-old courtship and rituals that gave men and
women the impressive abilities to steer another person
into a mutually committed relationship and blended them
with new millennium realities and conveniences to create
a very powerful and effective program that gets real
results!
Even if your man or woman has reservations about
commitment, it doesn't mean the relationship is beyond
hope... it just means you've got some work to do!
I can already hear some people protesting and asking why
bother at all... "dump
the loser and his/her commitment problems!"
And I PERSONALLY know what
that means -- I was the "loser" that got dumped a few
times because I had serious commitment phobia!
Some of those guys who
"dumped" me now regret dumping the "loser" and will
probably regret it for the rest of their lives!
So if you really love the
man or woman you are with, you might want to seriously
think hard before you "dump the loser and his/her commitment problems!"
And because of my
experience on the other side of the table, I know first
hand that you can't demand a
commitment from another person, you can’t impose
certain conditions on someone else, YOU CAN'T cajol or
sweet talk someone into a commitment, and it's simply
naive (dare I say, stupid) to just sit there for months
even years waiting for someone to commit to you -- and
to the relationship.
People don't want to be
manipulated, pressured, nagged, ordered, threatened and
bullied into commitment, they want to be "assisted" to find their own desire
to be genuinely involved and committed to the
relationship.
And steering
someone into a committed relationship is
a fairly easy thing to do,
and I'd like to show you how...
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Take an honest inventory
of the situation -- sometimes it's a matter of
really understanding the situation and why commitment
hasn't been brought up and if it has been brought up why
you're not in a committed relationship - yet!
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Provide the
inspiration he or she needs to make up his or her
mind; if something is missing in the relationship, fill
up that gap; if the person has a fear of commitment find
ways to enter places where no any other man or woman has
been allowed to go before (or again); and if the person
is sitting on the fence show him or her how your side of
the fence is better than sitting up there.
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Bring up commitment in a non-threatening
manner; and negotiate what is
mutually acceptable
to both of you at levels that you can both honor,
fulfill and
maintain over time. It is only within the context of
this understanding that both of you can
meaningfully act with each other's -- and the
relationship's -- best interest at
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Focus on those key areas
that might create "buyer's
remorse" (the
other person behaving opportunistically, going back on
his or her word, or not putting in the required effort)
and make sure you successfully balance independence and
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If you follow these
powerful steps, you will not have to wait very long
because you'll...
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have more control
of your emotions and the choices you make.
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have more control of the direction and development of the
relationship.
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be able to skillfully deal with someone who says he or she
loves you, includes you in his or her long term
planning but isn't ready to take the relationship to
the next step.
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be able to move the relationship along faster without you ever
having to wonder if he or she will or not commit.
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get someone to commit
because they want to -- so badly.
But it's not just
logically following steps 1 - 4. You've got to
know how to use the "relationship" as a space for
connectedness and bonding that is literally impossible
to break or walk away from.
The more he or she
perceives the relationship as meaningful and supportive
of him or her as an individual and as part of a couple,
the more he or she reciprocates by giving more of
himself or herself.
The more of himself or herself he or she “invests" in
the relationship, the more he or she stays involved
because he or she has already invested a great deal of
time and energy, and leaving would mean losing all of
that investment.
The more leaving the relationship isn't even a
possibility he or she wants to consider, the more he or
she feels that being with you is "the right thing to
do".
The more he or she feels
that he or she is with the right person, the more he or
she will want to give back, do his or her part, or honor
his or her commitment to you.
If you've
tried to steer your man or woman into a mutually
committed
relationship and nothing has worked, The Pathway To A Committed
Relationship Program is what you've been looking for.
Solution focused:
The program is specifically geared for people who are
not content with endlessly
discussing their problems or complaining about their
partners, while basically changing nothing. This is a
program for those interested in moving their
relationships to commitment.
Results oriented:
I designed this coaching program around a powerful
formula: Insight + skills + practice + support =
results. Every week you are equipped with
information and tools that you can implement
immediately, so you can achieve results as you learn.
Comprehensive:
It could take years to gather this information on your
own. In one fast-paced program, I'll give you what I
believe is the best and most important information to
help you directly, efficiently, effortlessly and
effectively inspire mutual commitment in a man or
woman.
Since Pathway To A
Committed Relationship is truly unique and not offered
elsewhere, I can accommodate only a limited number of
clients, so get started today!
COACHING BY PHONE
Not able to do in person
coaching or do phone sessions?
No Problem.
Pathway To A Committed
Relationship Program is now available to anyone living
anywhere in the world. All you need is a computer,
e-mail and access to the internet!
TAKE THE PROGRAM ONLINE
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